Saturday, June 27, 2026

What is an Immersive Sim?

 I'm going to be making some posts about immersive sims in the future but in order to do so it probably is helpful to define some terms. Notably there are a lot of 'meme definitions' of immersive sims, they has also caused a lot of confusion around the term. But honestly, the wikipedia definition is good enough as a working definition for most people. You can probably skip this entire post if you just want a 'good enough' definition.

But I think the main point of confusion that new fans to immersive sims are the 'meme definitions' like "any game that includes 0451" or "any game you can stack boxes" or "every game is an immersive sim" which are not helpful. They don't help people articulate what they like or find what they want. They are not particularly useful in describing the genre or having meaningful discussions. They function as a thought terminating cliche. And more destructively, it can function as misinformation that creates confusion. Players who might not know what an immersive sim is get confused or start declaring every game they like as an immersive sim and unscrupulous developers will try to use that label to get their games in front of players. Worst of all, anyone wanting to make an immersive sim will have an uphill battle performing their due-diligence before creating that game.

I worry about RetroSpace's inclusion of a spray bottle 
and what it means for the genre.

Normally, I wouldn't really care about this situation but the reality of game discovery has forced my hand. Current digital storefronts use genre tags for users to find games (and for developers to perform analytics). I have a real problem when I try to determine how to budget my game when the best tag for the kind of game I want to make is polluted with farm sims and sports games. Now imagine a developer wanted to get funding; How are they going to explain to business people, who might not even play games, what the revenue expectations should be? If an executive sees that there is no powerwasher in the Immersive Sim their developer is making, how are they going to react to that? Are they going to derail development and design with the insistence it is added to the game (withholding milestone payments; potentially canceling projects)? How can a developer push back against that when the executive can turn around and point to 3 games tagged 'immersive sim' that include a power washer?

I know that sounds hyperbolic and that no executive could possibly be that stupid. But if you are reading this blog you are probably an enthusiast. And what has history shown? What do you think a data driven executive is going to say when some developer says "the data is wrong"? Any reasonable executive would 9 times out of 10 follow the data and replace the developers with someone who will also follow the data and trends like they expected.

I need a Blendo games rest stop before moving
 on to what this blogpost is supposed to be about


This blogpost is supposed to be a foundation for talking about immersive sims, for establishing a foundational definition. But what are the good definitions? I already mentioned Wikipedia, but many developers have also given their own definitions and written on the topic. Any disagreements I have would be minor points. So what is the definition that I use for determining what is an immersive sim?

Drum roll please:

The Immersive Sim is a genre of video game defined by having a player controlled character interacting through systemic gameplay, where the game systems allow for emergent gameplay and player-driven solutions. These games emphasize player agency and intentionality, enabling players to use experimentation to find their own solutions to open-ended problems.

The levels of immersive sims are designed to frame the player's freedom within a simulated environment designed for emergent behaviors. There is a Reactive Narrative such that the game will react to the player's influence, but immersive sims focus more on the interplay of mechanics that encourage player intentionality and emergent gameplay in collaboration with an authored narrative.

Immersive Sims typically pay homage to other games in their genre. They are frequently in the First-Person perspective. They often have some form of stylization to their graphical presentation.

Now that definition has a lot of extra words that probably need some defining to make sense. I would caution against assuming you know what certain terms mean; as many people mistake immersive sims for being any game that is 'immersive' and 'a simulation' (but most simulations tend to be immersive while distinctly not being immersive sims). So here are some definitions:

Player Controlled Character: The player in an immersive sim directly controls a single character at a time. If you are tactically controlling units or strategically controlling armies the game shifts outside of the genre. Now having 'companion' characters that a player doesn't directly control, or the player switching control/possessing other characters I think still keeps the game in the tradition of an immersive sim.

Systemic Gameplay: Gameplay made from interconnected and consistent systems of rules rather than scripted sequences or bespoke game objects. These are typically required to support Emergent Gameplay.

Player Agency: The ability for a player to meaningfully influence what they are doing. Typically by making choices with consequences that go beyond progression. Instead of the game asking 'if' the player can do something, it asks 'how' they want to do something and supports those choices.

Player Intentionality: The ability for the player to formulate plans and implement them within the game (with the reasonable expectation of their success, and the possibility for failure).

Emergent Gameplay: This is complex interactions coming from the rules of the game and the games design affording these possibilities. Typically this means players will be able to create solutions the designer may not have anticipated and the game will allow this to occur.

Open-Ended Problems: These are goals that have multiple solutions that are not prescriptive or authored. If a player must acquire an item/MacGuffin it should be able to be obtained in potentially in multiple ways (ie there is no one way to steal it).

Player-Driven Solutions: The solutions to problems in an immersive sim are to be brought or figured out by the player. They are the ones to dictate how the tools the designer has crafted can be used to bypass the problem. Conversely, the designer does not prescribe a single solution for a problem. The designer may ask for a single output, but provide multiple ways for the player to create that output.

Simulated Environment: A simulated environment is one that is object rich and attempts to be interactive in all ways that a player would expect. An example of this would be the stackable boxes but also the ability to turn off lights and interact with computers.

Authored Narrative (in collaboration): This is also something unique about an immersive sim from other genres. A game must be designed and played as an immersive sim to be an immersive sim. The philosophy must run through all of development and into the player. The genre is a collective experience.

Leave it to the inventors of Immersive Sims
to challenge the notion of an immersive sim can be

And here are some things that are not in my definition that I am not sure about:

Singleplayer (vs multiplayer): I don't think immersive sims make good competitive multiplayer games; but I remain open to being convinced otherwise. I think one of core experiences of an Immersive Sim is the protagonist 'outsmarting the world' and in a multiplayer context this means outsmarting other players. However for the player being outsmarted they are likely having a negative experience. Manipulating NPCs in a single player game is fun, manipulating players in a multiplayer game can be toxic. I will need to expand on this in the future, but for now I advise against it.

Narrative Themes (Romance and Transgression): Some people tend to take a "you can do anything with anything" approach with creative endeavors; I tend to gravitate more towards a "just because you can doesn't mean you should" approach. I wont try to stop people from doing what they want, but I may ask the question "why are you making it hard on yourself"? That being said there is a major theme that I don't think works well with Immersive Sims: Romance. Since Immersive sims tend to have players manipulating systems and NPCs; doing so in a romantic context is exploitative. More specifically I think (or more agree with) the idea that Immersive Sim narratives feel better when they involve transgression of power structures in some form. Mixing that together with romance seems like it easily could be something uncomfortable for the player to experience.

Hopefully I will have time to expand upon so many of the things I have mentioned (and things I have omitted). But for now I think there is enough here for everyone to chew on. With a definition (and a clear rationale for having one) I hope we can get on with the most important part of immersive sims; enjoying them.

Saturday, February 28, 2026

The issue with issues with romance in games.

TL;DR Most games include romance as a feature and not a pillar or theme of their game; so critiquing their romance mechanics is basically just nit-picking. Developers should be free to include romance mechanics in their games and not be shamed for it (unless it's the focus of their game and they drop the ball).

I've seen a few discussions come up recently about how romances are done in games. The critical consensus seems to be that they are done poorly but this discussion has been going on for at least 15 years. But that begs the question as to why things haven't changed and why gamers accept the status quo.


The critical critique of the romance in a CRPG is that they are 'unrealistic' (which should tell most game designers everything they need to know). They tend to lament the collection of 'kindness coins' and the treating of romance as a reward as problematic. The idea you can just say the right words and 'win' at romance as being reminiscent of toxic stereotypes and objectification. Some developers have even taken to calling romance in games contrived. While these are all a kind of true; the criticism persists unaltered.


Kindness Coins was a game jam project that came out in 2013. It's a charming game and I appreciate what it does. The only thing that dismays me is the conversation hasn't changed much beyond what it said over 10 years ago.

I think the reason why things haven't changed is something that I like to call (in my head) the 'Hollywood Reality'. It's realistic in the movies, it's simplified and serves the story. Just as in a movie the hero never reloads, in a videogame the hero never has to manage half-spent magazines of ammo.  And the romance is the same way. The protagonist gets the (obligatory) love interest; or in games the player is able to use the systems of the game to romance their favorite romance option.


And that's an important point. They use the systems of the game. The parts of romance that can not be shown through the game are left absent. When a player invests time and chooses romantic interest toward their chosen love interest that is analogous to the time and sacrifice it takes to be in a relationship with someone (to think of someone other than yourself).


I think this is where the developer, the critic, and the player all misunderstand each other. The developer wants to create the best game they can; the critic sees the limits in how relationships are implemented; the player has a desire for expression. And this misunderstanding is especially true when the game isn't even about romance. It's usually about some heroic story with warrior wizards and psychic cyborgs and ninjas with rocket launchers. It's not a romance game about romance (or even if it is, its not a game about the complexities of romance. Rom-coms are not a deep analysis of the imbalances in modern relationships; maybe what you are looking for is a prestige film). Basically a CRPG with romance is not a game about the complexities of romance; it is romance as a part of a larger game.


A polygon article recently made the same old arguments against romance in games and prominently featured Baldur's Gate 3 as having the same old 'problems'. But as a CRPG, romance is not the games focus. Why not platform the prestige games trying to do romance better?

The real problem seems to be a misunderstanding of what the inclusion of romance is for. The critic seems to be asking mass market games to be more like indie 'prestige' games. They are asking for explorations of what a relationship can be. They want representations of differing types of relationships and to examine the intersectionality of romance within broader cultural contexts. They want to see games be different and find a deconstruction of romance that elevates the artform.


But the player isn't any less noble. They are looking for romance as a subplot. Something that deepens their connection to events and can be jeopardized to raise the stakes (or frame other concepts). It's part of the game, not the full game. The romance option they choose (as a-romantic as that sounds) is a part of their expression in the game. And there is an aspect of wish fulfilment but no more so than being a bad-ass cybermancer who doesn't play by the rules. Why shouldn't the protagonist get the love interest?


I'm not advocating that every game with romance should converge on having a playersexual polycule (well, I'm at least not going to admit it). What I want is for players, critics, and developers to understand the role of romance in the game they are playing, criticizing, or making. If a game isn't 'capital A about romance' criticizing its romance kind of sounds like you are missing the point or wanting the game to be something it is not or just nit-picking. And even if a developer added deep critical commentary on romance... if that was not what the game was about it's going to be confusing and probably not get the development time it needs. It's probably going to disappoint the critics who want to see that and annoy the players who don't. To the player it can feel like a rug-pull or a gotcha when the game starts testing romance topics that the player didn't think this was on the table.


If you want to make a game about the romance, about all the confusing complexities of people falling in love; go for it. But also be aware of the type of game you are making; it's prestige. It's more for the voice of critics than the whims of players (and that doesn't mean players wont enjoy it; they just need to know that's what they are getting into). But also be very well aware that you probably are not going to get AAA sales numbers out of a prestige game. You can do whatever you want, just please have realistic sales expectations.


With all of that said, let's have a little more love for the games with romance. Lets critique games for what they are trying to do rather than what they wished they had done. Lets let the prestige games have their moments without denigrating games who include romance as feature instead of a pillar.



Hey, I'm as surprised as you are that I was able to find relevant images of Tiefling devil-ladies for all of  images in this post.